Am I moving out way too early?
Question by dburnell01: Am I moving out way too early?
So what is going on is that I have a lot to deal with at my house right now, constant fights between parents that have been ex’s for 13 years, reminiscing and rambling to me and my brother over bottles of vodka, that sort of thing.
Now here’s where it get’s complicated. I don’t have that fantastic of a GPA (2.9), so I want to get an associates at a community college so I can do something later at a further university. Supposedly finances are not a problem (according to the parents), and college is not a priority at this top.
A further complication is we are moving to a further city before July 1st.
What is a priority is getting some money in to go out. In fact, I would probably be staying with my dad if my lady didn’t want me to do it. She want’s to go up there with me, but my mother’s don’t want her living with me. Long distance relations is not an option.
She’s thinking in this area getting an apartment, or renting a room from somebody. I mean, fuck I’m all for it, but I have but 120 something dollars in my bank! Not just that, but I’m only 17 - she’s 19! Gah!
She’d be bringing in some 12 an hour as a hostess, but the only skills I got is extensive knowlege in computers (programming, notebook repair, etc - stuff you need a college certification/degree/whatever to earn money for).
I’m damn excellent with mathematics (despise it though) and controlling my spending, but on the other hand, I haven’t had any experience with this shit, and the one job I had sucked so much I haven’t felt like applying for a further one (Got hired as an “Personnel Assistant” to help work on a website, finished up binding papers and rearranging a storage room for 6.50. Bullocks). That was two years ago.
Advice please?
Best answer:
Answer by Aunt C
Living on your own is hard, hard, hard. Talk to a professional in this area this. It is vital for you to know all of the ramifications caught up in rushing adulthood and for the therapist to know just so what is going on in your home life. Then, the therapist can help you weigh the advantages and disadvantages of both situations so that you can make an informed pronouncement that you won’t regret later on.
Excellent luck to you.
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I despised living at home & I left early with no money or anything of that sort, I regret responsibility it so young because I feel like I have wasted alot of my life struggling to pay off bills & making rent every month- its never fun to do when your in your teens, Im 25 years ancient now & I’ve got it collectively but it was alot of work & all I can say is it wasnt that much fun I wish I may possibly go back in time & live at my parents for as long as posible so I may possibly delight in more of my younger years instead of wasting nites working when I may possibly of loved them,, its a huge step & I reckon you should wait it out for a while longer make sure you have more than 120 bucks to save, I mean a couple thousand to get on your own 2 feet. If you dont like living with your parents than dont spend to much time at your house go out just come back home at nite! Trust me on this one. You also dont want to depend on your girl either because realationships come & go even if youve been with that person for some time, money worries hurts alot of relationships… I hope you make the right desicion
Give the ten points to Erica. You have no way of supporting yourself or even half the expenditure of living on your own with your girlfriend. At $ 12 an hour she can’t afford to live on her own with she pays her taxes. You need to live at home and not worry in this area rent, food, utilities, etc. and go to community college and then fixed college. These days even people with college educations are living at home because they would have to spend every penny on rent and utilities-the cost of electric has gone sky high in the last year. Also, even if you found a job in this market you probably wouldn’t keep it. Go in with your Dad and go to teach. By the way, no one will rent to you in anticipation of you are 18. Most people will not rent to a 19 year ancient living with a insignificant. If the relationship is meant to be, then you will get collectively later. If not, it is not worth sacrificing your future