Q&A: What to do about my boyfriend flunking college?
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Question by bananapartypants: What to do in this area my boyfriend flunking college?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now; he is 25 and I am 23. He has failed a couple classes in college and a certification test, and I am quite worried.
For the first couple years of our relationship he bounced from one crappy job to unemployment and back again. He had a career as a pipe layer for in this area a year, but he got fired. I tried to tell for myself that if he flunks out of college, it’s over between us. I know that it may sound superficial, but I don’t want to spend my life babying somebody.
He’s just the kind of guy that depends on other people for everything … his parents got him a couple jobs and it was his father’s thought to go to college, right down to the course that he’s taking. Whenever he makes a mistake (eg getting a speeding voucher, flunking class), he cannot accept responsibility. He always places the blame on somebody else (eg the cop was a jerk, the professor was too austere).
These are qualities that really worry me. I feel like my intuition may be right, since I foresaw him responsibility so terribly in teach. I do not like that can always does the least amount of work possible just to rasp by.
I try to help him apply himself - and it works sometimes, but we live in uncommon houses and I can’t be there all the time to help him, nor do I want to hold his hand through everything.
I’ve tried to talk to him in this area my feelings but he gets mad and ends the conversation.
Am I right to feel this way? What do you guys suggest I do?
* I do not like that he always does the least amount of work possible just to rasp by. …. should have edited that …
Best answer:
Answer by Christie Braun
You deserve a real man. An Equal you can depend on. He sounds like no excellent. Go on. You don’t want to baby him your whole life.
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you are perfectly right, you need to tell him to get smart or get dumped
What what in the butt?!
It sounds like your not well-matched and you should go on.
I mean this in the least offensive way possible, your boyfriend is a dead beat. You are more then right to feel the way you do in this area his behavior, because a relationship is a 2 way street. Sure no one is perfect and they need some help some times, but when all they do is receive and never give, they aren’t trying to be a part of the relationship. I would suggest breaking the relationship off as you have already tried to send of compromise through discussion and he has shut you out. (again that is unacceptable)
ps. just an observation in this area your description, is that he has never made a pronouncement for himself. If he has always relied on the pronouncement making of others and he is 25…. it really is anyones best quess when he learns how to do it for himself. And you need to remember that it doesn’t make you selfish to want a better relationship for yourself, don’t let him catch you in a trap where you are made out to be the terrible guy.